Now the overseer must be above reproach, the husband of
but one wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable,
hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not
violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.
1 Timothy 3:2-3
Recently I put myself in a situation in which I looked like I could have been doing something sinful. First I thought this situation would go unnoticed, and then after it did I was left to wonder what the people involved might think.
Now, I felt like these people would have to make some assumptions in order to come to the wrong conclusion. I thought perhaps it would be best if I didn't try to defend myself. So I didn't. Perhaps they would think nothing, and it would be fine. Or perhaps they would think something.
Which leads me then into the situation of how I should respond. Did I fail, simply be failing to live in such a way that no one could even think I had sinned? That's usually what I think of when I think of this verse. Is that even what it means? I'm really asking, I'm not trying to put forth an authoritative answer. Is "reproach" equivalent to accusation? I think that's the way we (I anyway, and I feel like other people) interpret this verse. I don't use the word "reproach much". I don't guess Dictionary.com is the best thing in the world for help with reading the Bible, but...
One that causes rebuke or blame.
Beyond blame... beyond disgrace. I don't know, it seems like it could go either way. I could blame someone for something that they didn't do, but I don't take the blame for something I didn't do. And someone's family can be disgraced based on what people think ("What will the neighbors think?!") but are you really a disgrace if you did nothing wrong?
I guess sometimes I think "I shouldn't be worried about what other people
think, I should be worried about what God thinks". And in some situations I realize, that I should use discernment and avoid situations that could look sinful.
Is this line of thinking wrong? Didn't the Pharisees work hard to look good in front of people?
Now I have to figure out if I should not worry about it (oops, looks like it might be too late for that... but maybe I can let it go)... repent from putting myself in that situation... talk to my friends and explain the entire situation to them so as to clear up any confusion...
Any thoughts? If you want a sin to imagine it being, imagine that it looked like I was stealing Oreos... =-P